Is this masochism?

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Hi, my very good friend thinks she may be masochistic, and I think she is right. She constantly has fantasies of bad situations, (which she enjoys) like having cancer, being a pregnant teenager who's child's father died, and many other fantasies she hasn't told me about. She loves extreme uncomfortable temperatures, and any extreme feelings. She says it's because she's never really ever experienced anything very extreme, physically or emotionally. She says she loves really [i]feeling[/i] things. She is very freaked out by the idea of her being masochistic, and we need some information. A few of the main things we would like to know are:

-Is masochism a genetic thing, is it in your DNA or anything? Or does it just develop?
-Is masochism a bad thing? I mean, I realize it has bad effects, but I noticed that it isn't really talked about much, contrary to things like, say homosexuality, which is talked about a lot. Is masochism frowned upon?
-Is masochism curable, or is it chronic? Also, what are the cures or treatments for it? (If there are any)
-Is there anything else we should know about in dealing with it, and living with it?
-Is she definitely a masochist, or could it be something else? If so, what else could it be?

Thank you so much for your help, she is really depressed, worried, and freaked out about all this- ever since she realized. I'm worried for her, because I know how hard it is to realize something so shocking about yourself, and to come to terms with it.
F.Y.I., masochism is enjoyment of your own pain, just so no one gets it mixed up with sadism, which is pleasure in other people's pain.

Also, my friend doesn't have any major situations in real life that she feels she can't control, so I don't think it's a power-play of any sort. Thanks for that idea though. Please give me more info, we are both a bit desperate. Thank you so much.
Oh, and in response to an answer, I asked my friend and she says that she would like it if the fantasies were actually real, and that the main reason that she would like them to be real is because then something would go wrong that wasn't her responcibility and wasn't her fault. Something she couldn't control. She would like not to be in control apparently. So is that just low self esteem and dissapoinment in one's self's accomplishments, or is it masochism? Or something else? Specialists? We need you here.

Thanks.
S.S.
It doesn't make sense for her to be worried because she suddenly realized that she might fit into a certain category. She is the same person, with the same feelings she always had. There's no reason to be upset by the fact that her feelings might be caused by masochism. She's still the same person. There's nothing physically wrong (that might cause health problems), and as far as I can tell she doesn't need treatment, unless she feels like it's negatively affecting her life. In that case she can visit a mental health professional to get their opinion.  (+ info)

Do I have Sexual Masochism? Im very freaked out.?

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I am very strange. I am a 15 year old virgin guy who is only aroused by weaker people getting beaten up or mocked by stronger people. I can't get aroused from anything sexual. I also get turned on by specific items of clothing (hoodys and sweatshirts) when they are worn by the jocks to the point I have taken hoodys out of there bags. I can ejaculate with masturbation, and have felt this way since I was very young (except it has changed over time). I read something about Sexual masochism today but didnt know if thats what I have. I am just coming out of anorexia, if that has anything to do with. Keep in mind that I would never harm anyone to please my fantasies. Do I have Sexual masochism??? And can it be fixed??
You sound like a very sensible young man...you are going through a lot of changes in your life and as long as you realize you can control your "fantasies" and that you would never harm anyone, then perhaps you should not worry about this too much...Everyone, and I mean everyone, goes through all kinds of fantasies in their lives...it's how you deal with them that is important...check out sexual masochism on the web and you can decide if you have that...I don't think so...take care...  (+ info)

Is this masochism or self mutilation?

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I've been doing a bit of research to try and figure out what is exactly wrong with me. Though I'm stuck between the two, It seems what I do to myself fits self mutilation. But I don't exactly cut to get rid of emotional pain, or because I am depressed, or for attention which is stereotyped in our society quite a bit now. I just enjoy the feeling of being in pain, the stinging sensation, a long with the blood that comes with it. I haven't found any connection between masochism and the love for blood though, and only my own blood. When I'm alone I'll paint with it, either on paper or on myself. Sometimes I will deliberately burn myself with my straighter and hit myself as well.

I don't have the same feeling if I see someone else bleeding it has to be mine. I've actually never suffered from any depression my whole life and tend to be quite happy. I do do my best to hide the scars from people, by only cutting the top part of my legs for the most part, and wearing long sleeves if I happen to hurt myself elsewhere. I'm just so confused right now as to which I fit under, or if I need help or not.

I do suffer from mild OCD, so I'm not sure if that links in with anything.
You sound masochistic to me and a lot of people will say that's a bad thing, but it doesn't have to be. Some people that are masochistic are very well rounded individuals. I've delved in the S/M lifestyle and you would probably greatly enjoy using sex and pain together. If this is an issue that really bothers you you can seek therapy, but I'm not sure what good it would do you. Think of it like some people enjoy tea, or fine jewelry, you enjoy pain. There's nothing wrong with it and I'm the same way. It's doubtful that your OCD has much if anything to do with this. You can look into the website Collarme.com for information, a forum, and people that share in this lifestyle.  (+ info)

are these signs of masochism?

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I think my girlfriend might be a masochist.
Back in highschool she was a cutter (cut her wrists for fun).
Used cocaine.
Her favorite band was System of a Down (because of their disturbing lyrics).

I think the only reason she enjoys these things is because she finds comfort in having a disturbing lifestyle. If she is a masochist, I wouldn't love her any less, I just want to know if the masochism is what makes her like me (I'm kinda freaky looking. 10 inch mohawk, hundreds of piercing, etc.)
taking cocaine, liking certain music and cutting have nothing to do with being a masochist!

a masochist gets pleasure from being abused, punished, dominated by someone.  (+ info)

Compared to self-injury, what would you call someone that desires pain from another?

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NOT necessarily for sexual gratification as in masochism but for the same reasons people self-injure.
Sadism and masochism are being widely known for pleasure from pain of another, not just in sexual situations, but all the time. The true deffinition is sexual gratification including blood/pain, and is considered a fetish, but people are beginning to recognize it for all around "desires of pain from another". =[[  (+ info)

Would this be considered a form of Masochism?

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I get really turned on by authority and discipline. I have a slightly submissive personality and I like the idea of forfeiting control. My pain threshold is not very high therefore I don't find pleasure in harsh pain (perhaps in playful pain?), however other kinds of light punishment or humiliation is kind of a turn on (I think as long as its in the privacy between the 2 people) . And I really like putting myself in vulnerable positions.

A real life example: I am very much infatuated by my teacher. I like the whole idea of them being in the position of power and me being the vulnerable student. Their sternness and authoritativeness, towards me personally, not towards the class, and my obligation to please them and/or do as they say is something really turns me on. I know this does not having anything to do with the physical pain but nonetheless it is one of the more prominent examples.

Would any of this be considered a form of masochism? If not what would it be considered (explanation appreciated)?
No, this is dominance/submission, which is quite common. I'm much the same actually, I'm fascinated by power plays and power relationships, though I really have no interest in sex or relationships for myself, I just read and write and watch tv shows and those are the sort of relationships that interest me the most.  (+ info)

How can I save myself from the curse of masochism?

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not that because i am ashamed of it, but it is damaging me and my whole life. I can not think of any future happiness with this masochism in me. It makes me go for cruel girls, fail in social life, always having the lower hand. I have another part of me who wants to succeed, and who want to hang out iwth girls who respect him and love him, and not enjoy abusing him, though i have masochistic fits and impulses that ruins my life.

Please i know no answer can offer real help it is only me who can find a way out. I can not find how though. do you think I am cursed because somethign wrong in me, wrong attitude or something? what could be my sins or mistakes?
Hey, don't beat yourself up.  (+ info)

masochism, what causes is it?

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and is the treatment?
it's childish - basically something left over from your childhood.

I'd say a competitive environments or something scarce drives it e.g. tournaments, a girl 2-10 guys want, jobs, abusing realities or mindsets.

Cure: remove yourself in such environment and look into self development. Self development wise, I can't pin down an exact book since there are that many that covers this subject and it draws a lot from psychology.

Hope this helps  (+ info)

Is there a proper name for a fetish that involves being humiliated?

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I know the usual ones:
BD (bondage & domination)
SM (sado masochism)

but just wondering if there was one specifically for humiliation.
How about "sado-humiliassimus" - meaning being humiliated
in a sadistic manner.  (+ info)

Why do some people like body piercing?

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Seriously. I don`t get it. What can drive anyone to pierce his own flesh in this bizarre way? Is this some kind of masochism? Besides, it looks weired and sometimes scary. Any idea?
Sometimes it's to symbolize what a person has experienced. Sometimes it's to enhance sexual pleasure. But most times it's because they like the piercing. It accentuates a part of the body they like. Some extremes use piercings to make themselves look bizarre but who cares? It's their body. Sometimes it is masochism, but most times it's just because they like the way it look. Astheticism is deadlier than masochism.  (+ info)

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