How can I overcome this separation anxiety with my newborn child ?

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I cannot possible think of anyone I would feel 100% comfortable leaving my baby with for 2 hours. My mother in law is gonna babysit my baby for 2 hours this coming saturday and Im feeling VERY uneasy about it, Ive seen her handle the baby with alot of care when were around but is she like that when im not there??? I DONT KNOW.
I know it is hard, with all of my children the first 6 months are the hardest for me. When I am in that situation I try to think ahead, like when I get home. I always think about the "what if" and it is very hard to think of anything else. When I had to leave my girls that young for a couple hours I always called and I did it several times. My mother in law is going to be watching my 5 month old next week and she is at the stage where she is having separation anxiety, so all I can do really is prepare my mother in law for it and try to make things as comfortable for her as possible. That way as long as my mother in law is calm then the baby will be calmer. Make sure that your mother in law spends alittle time with you and your baby before you go than that way she gets familiar with her smell and things should go smooth.
I think it is good that you are worried, I'm sure you are a good mom and being protective of your baby is what you are supposed to do. Good luck and you will do just fine, so will your baby.  (+ info)

My child is almost 2 and start to have separation anxiety?

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is this normal? I thought he'd be past this stage by now. He just started not wanting to be away from me at all. I can't even get a shower in peace. Being in the bathroom is not enough, he has to be able to open the curtain and make sure i'm there.
My son follows me everywhere he s 21 months i m not sure if it is separation anxiety as that is common in babies as they haven t grasped that you are coming back.with toddlers it s more that they don t like being alone and a lot of the time its because they love you so much and cannot get close enough to you.my daughter was the same as a toddler she still likes having me nearby even now she s five and my son always likes to have me where he can see me and preferably on my knee!it is a sign that you have a very affectionate little boy too so be proud i know its annoying at times but he will become more independant soon but he will probably always feel close to you.  (+ info)

What can be done about Shyness Paranoia? Is this separation anxiety, wierd or just some personality disorder?

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Friend has 18 year old daughter who cannot do anything by herself. She even has her Mom go with her to her best friends house. This has become a huge problem and she also is shy to where she does not speak. What is this situation called? What can be done to help.
I think, before you go pushing them off to therapy, efforts to talk to the daughter and find out what exactly she is thinking should be made. Probably not from you, but from someone she trusts/is close with, like her mom. I mean, she IS 18 -- don't treat her like she is a child. Her mom needs to know exactly what she is afraid of, and what her daughter thinks of her own situation, if she believes herself that she needs professional help or not. You need to first gauge how serious the situation really is, and the only way to do that is to talk to her.  (+ info)

How long did it take before your youngster got over the crying and separation anxiety for school?

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I know each kid is going to be different and depending on their age, but I'm just trying to get an average. My baby girls 1st day of K and my sons 1st full day of school after being homeschooled was yesterday. This is so hard for us all and I know it will get better over time. How long did it take for you & yours??
You are right about each child being different. I am mom to 4 kids. My first two only had problems for the first 1-2 days of school. My 3rd was like, "You don't have to come in, Mom, I know how to get to my class." Our 4th was a surprise baby, born when I was 38 years old and her siblings were 18, 15, and 12. She basically knew nothing but living and interacting with adults and teenagers. Kindergarten came as quite a shock to her. She has been fretting about everything since the day she could talk and going to school really set her into a major fret. We were well near to Spring Break before I finally felt like the tears and fretting were going considerably better. We kept it up because I knew it would get better. She's 11 now and going into 6th grade. We start school Sept. 2 and she's been in high gear fret mode for about 2 weeks now. Every year it takes her shorter and shorter time to get used to the new everything about school starting. Our best year was the year she went into 4th grade because her 3rd grade teacher looped up to 4th and took the entire class (except for 1 student) with her. She started 4th with the same teacher, the same room, and the same classmates. What a relief that was to her. Yesterday she told someone, honestly I think, that she is looking forward to the new school year. I was pleased, my baby is growing up! Age doesn't necessarily have as much to do with it as your children's personalities and your own attitude. It's hard, very hard, to put on a "happy face" when all you want to do is keep your babies with you forever. But, that isn't healthy for them or us. It has been my experience as mom, child care provider, and parent volunteer to say that it takes most kids less than 2 weeks to adjust to a new routine and settle in. What I have found works best, and I encourage my families to use when they drop off their little ones, is to give one hug, one kiss, and say a routine farewell, such as, "Mommy is going to work now. Have a good day. I will see you when school is over. I love you." Regardless of their clinging and crying, it is important to make the leaving routine and then let the teacher deal with the tears. Teachers are used to this and can work best with their students when parents aren't hovering. Hovering makes kids nervous and gives them a sense that something isn't right if mom/dad won't leave me here alone. You'll probably cry longer in the car on the way home than they will at school if you follow this simple and upbeat leaving routine. Some kids do well at first than develop separation issues later in the year. Others will revert if something new happens, like having a substitute teacher. My youngest would have horrible melt-downs when there was a sub. Last year was the first year that a sub didn't send her for a loop.   (+ info)

At what age did your child have separation anxiety?

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I am a working mom and I am really not looking foward to this stage. How did you or how are you dealing with it? How long did it last?
I think my son is starting now at 9 months but I'm not too sure. He is fine with certain people and I'm not around. He is not ok with others  (+ info)

can you help with my separation anxiety?

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i was diagnosed with separation anxiety about two weeks ago when my mom killed herself. My attacks are terrible and I need some help. How could i ease the terrible feelings and get rid of this anxiety?
you need to talk to someone like a therapist about what happened to your mom and your feelings about it. That is a horrible thing to have to experience and directly relates to your anxiety.
There is also a group called the american foundation for suicide prevention that was founded by people who had a loved one that committed suicide. They have information on their website about support groups and other resources.  (+ info)

Any moms out there with separation anxiety?

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I know its usually the babies with this, but I can't bear to leave my baby with anyone without worrying all day long. I have three kids 8 year old, 5 year old and 7 month old, I kinda loosened up on the older kids, but with the baby I just think of the worst happening all the time. My poor husband gets neglected because I wanna bring my children everywhere we go. Anyone else going thought this?
I leave my infant at daycare during the day, and I call usually twice a day. But they really encourage that, and actually sound glad that I'm calling, if you can believe it! But I do the same thing when my husband keeps her at home when he is off work during the week. I guess that's just the mommy in me.  (+ info)

Is there any way to ease the separation anxiety of my 11 months old son?

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I'm getting ready to go back to work after 2 months of staying home. My son would not let me out of his sight. Any suggestions?
as a psych major i can tell you that from 6-18 months is the prime time when we see strong attachment behaviors from the child to the mother, so rest assured that this is perfectly normal. also understand that although it may not be easy, if its getting difficult for you, then you must be firm. when you give in to your baby and stay with him, you are reinforcing his behavior to cry the next time you need to leave and so on. good luck.  (+ info)

Could separation anxiety be indicative of a past life trauma ?

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Such as being permanently separated from parents in a war or disaster in a previous life, and the fear carried over into the present.
how old is your baby? and what makes you think its separation anxiety?  (+ info)

How do i help my 11 month old with separation anxiety?

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I have never made a habit of co-sleeping... it's just not for me. But since i've started back in school my son will NOT sleep in his own bed. He has to sleep in my bed and he HAS to be touching me. He has also slept all the way through the night since he was 2 months old, and he doesnt anymore. He cried all day for the sitter. What can i do to get him back in his own bed? Any suggestions?
Here's a link to a great article that may help you and your little one:
http://www.babycenter.com/0_separation-anxiety_145.bc

Hope this helps!
Best Wishes!!  (+ info)

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